Would you have sex for money?

[MiaAntonia]

I once had a married woman patient of 41, who 15 years earlier, did a few porn movies with her husband. They were prompted to do so for the thrill of having sex in public (it was a fantasy of theirs) and the money was of secondary importance. Her hubby naturally had to come in those porn scenes, initially with her but very soon with other women, but she herself had to fake her orgasms as she could not achieve it, neither in public, nor in private with her hubby. She did not mind seeing her husband at all being pleasured by other women. It was when they were making their seventh film, she attained her first orgasm when a women went down on her in a private bedroom scene. Her second orgasm also came with a woman, also in a private scene. A couple of days later, when the woman who was directing the movie complimented her on the orgasm scene (as being natural), her husband did not like it, and this threw their 2-year marriage into turmoil, and they ended up divorcing a few months later with him accusing her of being a lesbian (which she was not).

 

[thatguyfromthatplace]

I once had a married woman patient of 41, who 15 years earlier, did a few porn movies with her husband. They were prompted to do so for the thrill of having sex in public (it was a fantasy of theirs) and the money was of secondary importance. Her hubby naturally had to come in those porn scenes, initially with her but very soon with other women, but she herself had to fake her orgasms as she could not achieve it, neither in public, nor in private with her hubby. She did not mind seeing her husband at all being pleasured by other women. It was when they were making their seventh film, she attained her first orgasm when a women went down on her in a private bedroom scene. Her second orgasm also came with a woman, also in a private scene. A couple of days later, when the woman who was directing the movie complimented her on the orgasm scene (as being natural), her husband did not like it, and this threw their 2-year marriage into turmoil, and they ended up divorcing a few months later with him accusing her of being a lesbian (which she was not).

Sounds like the typical scenario of a guy who wants to do something in order to be with other women but then doesn't like how it turns out when his wife gets into it and really explores her boundaries and finds people who please her better.

A shame, and very petty and insecure on his part.

 

[MiaAntonia]

Sounds like the typical scenario of a guy who wants to do something in order to be with other women but then doesn't like how it turns out when his wife gets into it and really explores her boundaries and finds people who please her better.

A shame, and very petty and insecure on his part.

Yes, this is a fairly common issue with couples who partake in swinging or group sex, with the man becoming apprehensive and jealous in seeing his woman having pleasure more than he can give her himself. In my patient's case, she simply mentioned that he hated lesbians and accused her of being one. As she came to see me for a problem that had nothing to do with her divorce (some 15 years earlier), we or I did not dewell on this period of her life.

 

[thatguyfromthatplace]

Yes, this is a fairly common issue with couples who partake in swinging or group sex, with the man becoming apprehensive and jealous in seeing his woman having pleasure more than he can give her himself. In my patient's case, she simply mentioned that he hated lesbians and accused her of being one. As she came to see me for a problem that had nothing to do with her divorce (some 15 years earlier), we or I did not dewell on this period of her life.

That's insane to me, to say such a hateful thing to the woman you love because she enjoyed herself with a woman.

I would find it hot as hell to see any woman I was with exploring her desires that way.

 

[LaLaLand]

In a heartbeat

 

[MiaAntonia]

That's insane to me, to say such a hateful thing to the woman you love because she enjoyed herself with a woman.

I would find it hot as hell to see any woman I was with exploring her desires that way.

I believe that their marriage was weak, in either of love, trust or understanding. These have to be individually very solid to cruise an adventure without any repercussions.

 

[MiaAntonia]

I once worked on a case of a newly married (white) man aged 28 who was facing issues in maintaining an erection while having sex with his wife.

Discussing his sexual past, he first had sex at university, with a 42 year old coloured woman, who was the wife of his advisor at university. Long story, but in brief, he was poor, and on a tuition scholarship which he can hold on to by maintaining a minimum GPA. As he had to work multiple jobs to earn money to make ends meet, he was failing to meet the minimum required GPA. His student advisor (a coloured professor) provided help by securing for him an additional university finacial grant, against which he needed his help to indulge his wife sexually as he was personally incapable of doing so due to impotency. My patient obliged her weekly, which also provided him with the sexual gratification of "fucking a super black woman," and also his first woman. My patient was a virgin until then. A few months later, that woman introduced him to one of her married friends (another black woman of 40) whose fantasy was to bed a "white man." This woman gave him monetary gifts which provided additional needed support. For the next three years at university, he slept with these two women, and with a third too (also black introduced by the first woman) who was not satisfied of her sex life, and who paid him in gifts (not cash). All 3 women were well-off financially.

So, for 4 years at university, this patient of mine (a white male) had sex with black women, all married, and all for monetary benefit. He had sex with no one else. After university, and after finding an appropriate job in a different city, he maintained his relationship with third woman with whom he has become emotionally attached. That woman who was 20 years his senior, rightly distanced herself from him, as she realised that it will harm him to continue seeing him.

4 years later, relocating to this country with a good job, this man sought my advice as he was having sexual problems with his white wife. He was losing his erection within a minute of entering her. They did not have sex before they got married as it was against her belief. His wife was 25 years old.

After breaking up with the third woman he resorted to sleeping with black call girls (2 of them), more or less regularly. The two were a few years older than him. He had two very short-lived relations with white girls, and in both he failed to have sex (penetration) with them, losing his erection. When I questioned him if he ever attempted to pay a white call girl, his answer was no. How about bedding a younger black girl? Again he said no.

I started working on this case which seemed a typical case of a young man who was initiated into sex by a much older woman and who for 5 years became fully dependent on much older women for sex. Both women he slept with later, were black and for money. Usually, such men (regardless of colour) turn into being passive in bed. There was also the twist of all his sexual activity was done for monetary gain.

I discussed in some detail sex with his wife, and concluded that they were both passive in bed. I told him I needed to see his wife too, and we agreed that he would ask her to do so. She never did and I did not hear from him again.

 

[Pratt Whitney]

You mean me paying for sex, or someone paying me for sex? The answers, in order, are (1) no, (2) I'll never have to worry about it.

 

[LaLaLand]

I’m in either way

 

[LovesCurvesUK]

If you mean me paying for sex then it’s a total no from me that’s either as a straight transaction or as a financial means for benefits type of relationship. If you meant me selling sex for money I’m very lucky I have not found myself to be in a place of need to do that but I guess if things every changed and women would pay for transactional sex and it kept a roof over my head there’s a strong possibility I would.

 

[LaLaLand]

Long time ago when I first moved across the country arriving in Los Angeles to attempt a career in show business I met a very wealthy, married and unhappy woman who was twice my age. Very, very attractive, what we would now describe as a "Cougar." It was a new experience for me and, my naïveté never considered I was just what she was looking for. Money never changed hands but believe me...there were many luxury perks. I took advantage of every single one. And...I was getting laid. After awhile I did start to feel I was "On call."

 

[Kevin and Nina]

would you have sex for money?

I have. Never out of financial need, but there’s something kinky about taking money for it.
I’ve never taken money from someone I wouldn’t have done it with for free though.
One guy I met in an airport hotel lounge must have assumed I was a working girl because when I woke up the next morning, there was a couple hundred dollars on the bathroom counter,

have you had people offer you money for sex?

I think most women, at some point have been offered money for anything from showing her boobs, hand job, blow job, and or sex. Doesn’t mean she did it but I don’t know any of my friends or coworkers who haven’t at least had an offer
My heart goes out to women who are being forced into it by addiction, poverty or threats of violence but I don’t understand why it’s supposedly ok for a woman to have sex with a man (or multiple men) she’s not married to. But if she earns money from it, she’s suddenly immoral.

 

[MiaAntonia]

A few months ago, a married lady of 34 visited me, telling me she’s feeling very guilty for concealing an important fact from her 38-year-old husband. They have been married for 4 years. Her husband a partner of a big company, asked her a year ago to accompany him to a dinner with two foreign executives who were seeking to buy one particular product from his company. For some reason, the two foreign executives thought that the woman (my patient) was an escort girl accompanying their host, and soon during the dinner the two started flirting openly with her, while at the same time talking about striking a very big deal with the company. At the end of the dinner, the two asked their host (the husband) if the woman could accompany and show them around the city at night, and he agreed, telling her in a language not understood by the guests that she should do her best to satisfy them, even if meant going “all the way.”

My patient had a rich history of indulging is sex during her premarital days, never committed to a person, sleeping effortlessly with her dates, and satisfying the two executives was not an issue to her, if her husband did not mind it. She ended sleeping with the two executives, and when she returned home, she did tell her husband that the two guys slept with her, but telling him she did not enjoy it at all, and did it for his sake, while in reality she enjoyed it immensely, reminding her of her premarital days. A big lucrative business deal was struck with her husband’s company the following day. A few months later, the same two executives visited them again, to strike another deal, and they asked her husband, if he can bring along with him “the same escort.” Again, she slept with them enjoying the sex but telling her hubby that she did not and did it only for him.

Now guilt is seizing her. I asked if her husband wanted to know what took place between them, and he did not. Actually, he did not ask her any questions at all. It was clear he was not concerned that she slept with them, and it meant nothing to him, except for striking two lucrative deals. Her sex life with her hubby is good, and they are both satisfied sexually. I ended telling her, since she has not indulged in any extramarital sex at all, except for those two times, and at his encouragement, then she should drop the guilt feeling.

 

[Deleted member 4964]

HA! No one would pay me to have sex with them.

 

[1randombeauty]

Yes, I would but it would depend on the woman asking. She’d have to be my type.

Separately, I have been asked to sell my videos, which are videos of me masturbating etc. Does that count?

 

[Candela]