Is it cheating?

[Whybother]

My wife and I are both at the 60 year old mark. Sex isn’t what it used to be. We only have sex about once a month. I’m usually so excited that as soon as I slide inside her I’m ready to cum. She doesn’t mind at all since she is anorgasmic and not interested in long sessions.

But After she suggested that we do it today I surreptitiously gave myself a few squirts of KY Duration Spray while she went to the bathroom. And… it worked. I lasted much longer than I have in a long time.

I didn’t say anything because I’m certain that she would balk at me using the spray. I must say though, it felt great to fuck for longer and I had a great orgasm.

Is it cheating to hide my new trick from her?

 

[Mittimer]

Not cheating at all. This is something you may eventually want to talk to her about, especially if you're having unprotected sex. The spray could potentially cause issues for her lady bits. Ph, sensation loss etc. Her knowing what's going on would be a good thing. But using it for you to enjoy sex longer isn't in any way a truly bad thing.

 

[Realblkops]

My wife and I are both at the 60 year old mark. Sex isn’t what it used to be. We only have sex about once a month. I’m usually so excited that as soon as I slide inside her I’m ready to cum. She doesn’t mind at all since she is anorgasmic and not interested in long sessions.

But After she suggested that we do it today I surreptitiously gave myself a few squirts of KY Duration Spray while she went to the bathroom. And… it worked. I lasted much longer than I have in a long time.

I didn’t say anything because I’m certain that she would balk at me using the spray. I must say though, it felt great to fuck for longer and I had a great orgasm.

Is it cheating to hide my new trick from her?

No. I would say tell her though.

 

[1Fine_ass]

Definitely not cheating. Doug uses various lubes etc on me and himself. If it makes sex better then no harm whatsoever and if your wife asks about it, simply tell her its because you enjoy making love to her for longer.

 

[etherealsanity]

Wouldn't call it cheating, but still not right to be using that without her knowing about it. You really should not be using anything with a numbing agent in it without your partner knowing. Since if she'd had an adverse reaction to it... you'd definitely have some explaining to do.

 

[RobertMcCall4]

First, no. It is not cheating.

Second, I disagree with some of the others. I say no reason to tell her unless she asks or implies. Then you must tell. No lies. Lying is not only cheating it's the road to perdition.

 

[Mr E]

Not cheating. But my rule of thumb is would you tell your partner. If your doing something you wouldn't tell them, then it's not right.

 

[goander]

Nope.

 

[Sweet Cheeks]

It isn’t cheating but u do need to tell her what you are using especially if she could be allergic to any of the contents

 

[Procrasturbating]

No, but as with a lot of things related to sex, communication is everything.

 

[Kevin and Nina]

A long time ago, we (as a couple) defined cheating as anything outside the established boundaries set by the couple.
Some couples have open relationships where anything goes as long as they’re careful and other couples are very restrictive and if one of them goes to lunch with a member of the opposite sex, there will be hell to pay.
If you can’t tell them or you know they’d be hurt or angry if they found out, it’s probably outside the boundaries of your relationship. That would be cheating.
Would she be hurt or angry if she discovered you new trick or appreciate that you took the initiative to make things better?
She’ll eventually figure it out. She’ll either find your lube or walk in on you while you’re applying it. Have a plan.

 

[Itsme1234]

No it’s not, there’s nothing wrong with trying to make yourself last longer. Try edging yourself during sex and frequently changing up positions. that might help with lasting a bit longer. Plus I think you should tell her about it